Blogtober Day 12…

 

When I was kid there was a group of Christian College Students that would come to my church every year and sing. I should probably point out that I was raise southern baptist. Every year when these groups would come my mom would make sure I got to church early. If anyone knows me, they know I don’t get to church early. When I was a teen and could drive, I would get to church late. I didn’t mind going to Sunday School, but I felt like if ever there was a moment to see the fake folk shine it was Sunday School. In their defense it could have also been the morning. I am not a morning person. I’m not interested in being up in the morning and I am surely not interested in the overly joyful personalities in the morning. Nevertheless, on the days the students were there I made sure to be to church bright and early.

These students were so cheerful and obnoxiously kind, it would make my stomach turn. No offense to them but it just felt fake to me. I didn’t understand how they could be that overwhelmingly bubbly at 8am in the morning. My mother is that person but even she would have a late morning where she needed to be focused on getting dressed and out of the house. I liked those morning because I would just get a “Get up and get dressed.” Unlike the usual song and dance in the morning. My mother til this day is a morning person with not one child (I take that back my brother is a morning(ish) person) is a morning person. Now that I’m writing I’m realizing my issue was I have bubbly at home and then would go to church and get an overdose of bubbly. It was all too much.

What’s my point…? There are times in life when a person’s personality can come off fake or engineered. How do you determine if that is who they are or if it’s a gimmick? Observe them in the quiet moments. I was having a conversation with someone about how to determine the truth of a person’s feelings. My cousin felt like this person was happy with life and I disagreed. She asked me why I disagreed. I told her it’s because of the moments in-between the laughter that I observe. People can only hold a persona of who they want you to believe they are for a moment. When they take a breath observe their facial expressions. When the laughter of a moment dies down, observe their body language. Our desire is for people to see us, to know, and to understand us. Even when we consider them an enemy, we still desire to be understood. If you are wanting to if someone is for you observe their actions around you. Do they show up for you in the way that is most helpful to you? Do they priorities you as best they can? In the moments of quietness do they see you? In the moments of stillness do they enjoy being around you?

You are worthy of showing up for. You are worthy of beautiful moments and most importantly you are worthy of being seen and understood. I will continue to pray this prayer: Lord Jesus, I pray that you remove those that are not for us from our lives. Surround us with those that are for us and will champion our cause. And we can be for and champion their cause. In Jesus Name.

Thank you for supporting and reading and sharing. I appreciate the love. I appreciate you and I see you. I understand you.

Love ya,

-Juls